Struggling with fertility issues or undergoing infertility treatment?

Having children is a part of many people’s life plan. When something gets in the way of this life plan, it can be very disheartening and stressful. Many things can make having a baby difficult. Perhaps you’re single and wondering if you should have a child on your own. Maybe you’ve been trying to get pregnant for awhile and wondering if it’s ever going to happen. Or maybe you are currently undergoing fertility treatment or exploring egg or sperm donation. Whatever the reason, you don’t need to go through it alone.

Fertility counseling for individuals and couples

I work with individuals and couples to address the difficulties involved with infertility.

I provide support during the ups and downs of infertility, when facing painful or intrusive medical treatments, and during times of high distress, such when a treatment fails or after a miscarriage. I will help you work through feelings of stress, grief, fear, and other emotions you might be experiencing. We will also work together to help you strengthen the coping skills you already have, develop new coping skills, and more clearly communicate your needs to others.

For couples, I address how infertility may be affecting your relationship. People have different ways of coping and each partner’s coping style impacts the other. I work with couples to address the dynamic created by different coping styles, overcome emotional distance created by infertility and help build meaningful connections with each other.

Third party reproduction consultations

Providers often require patients to have a psychological consultation before pursuing third party reproduction. Third party reproduction is when donated sperm, eggs, or embryos are used. This can be a complex decision and the purpose of the psychological consultation is to help you think through everything so that you can make the best-informed decision possible. The consultation usually takes place over the course of two 50 minute sessions. We will discuss the impact of successful and unsuccessful treatment, including anticipated challenges and ways to cope. We will also discuss what to consider when deciding on a donor and the potential role of the donor in the child’s life. I provide consultations for single parents, same-sex couples, and heterosexual couples.

Facts to consider

How common is infertility?

Having trouble getting pregnant isn’t something that most people anticipate facing. Yet, it’s very common – 1 in 8 couples have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy.

Is infertility only a woman’s problem?

Men have similar rates of infertility as women. Approximately 1/3 of infertility is due to a female factor, 1/3 to a male factor, and 1/3 to problems with both partners or an unexplained cause. Regardless of the cause, infertility can be painful and difficult for both people in a relationship. It is important to support one another through this time.

Is what I’m feeling about infertility normal?

Feeling stressed, depressed, anxious, and isolated are all very common when facing infertility. Infertility can be one of the most distressing life crises that a person faces. In addition, many men and women feel inadequate and ashamed about their masculinity or femininity, which can in turn cause them to feel unworthy of their partner. You may think you’re the only one experiencing these feelings, however, you’re not alone. Counseling can help you cope with these feelings.